Monday, May 4, 2009

U, Me Aur HUM !!!


The difference between life and the movies is that a script has to make sense, and life doesn’t.” - Joseph L Mankiewicz

I have heard lot of people saying that movies & life are different but believe me real life is worse than the movies and I don’t give a damn if anyone doesn’t believe that movies show us mirror & represent the events (only small portion of events) happen in the real world.

When I am writing this blog I must confess one thing…The heart is completely at the right place & mind is creating chaos.

I'm not going to lie to you: U Me Aur Hum had me in tears by the end. While that's not a complete miracle, a film has to touch me in some way for me to react. And U Me Aur Hum did—

I am relating my own experiences with this movie and merging them both and not binding it with one specific relation.

The problem is “it’s all about me…” but the trick to deal with this issue is the solution “it’s all about me as well…” I have seen lot of things in these 25 years (may be not enough). But it has forced me to write this blog which I would have never written or thought…it’s an effect of the movie.

It’s all about me in this world and I always tell my close friends (partner & bhanus) that there is no shame in thinking that way since everyone thinks that way and no point in suffering just because of those people who play the game according to their wish & kick you out like anything…hey wait…I am not telling to be rude but y the hell we should suffer? When people take decision for their happiness y we can’t kick them out from our lives? (Partner, I know it’s impossible for us…we can do…but we suffer in that case as well), I just don’t understand why relations can’t work on HUM theory? Why the hell people think about themselves only? I must be guilty somewhere as well but why u can’t do that? How the hell someone can disrespect those whom they even don’t know well? Why there is no transparency between 2 human? It’s changed…it's changed in a big way…I am not trying to be saint here by writing all this. I am concerned…I am afraid of doing the same thing which I don’t want to do...u know why? Reason is…If dog bites you then u can’t bite back 

It has given immense pain to my friends & me as well  we were wondering & are wondering did we deserve that treatment from the people whom we trusted the most? But I guess they have that “I”, priorities & I would love to do that at some point of time in my life as well but it will hurt…it’s like being a dog 

I have found myself guilty in few relations but in those case the bond (Not James Bond) was not there…but in relations where there must be lot of trust & transparency…still people do things which are FAKE…How the hell anyone can do those things which are like hitting below the belt? It’s not acceptable and even the apology comes after that is just like a stiff apology which is a second insult.... The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.

It happens when “I” comes in picture…It’s an EGO…personal benefit…to have better life…to have secure life…to have too much cautious approach…to have comfort… I have no issues with all this but please remember that someone else is also affected by your decisions…It’s not only about U or ME…It’s about HUM in good relations…I just don’t want my friends or myself to be on either of the side because it's end of the RELATION.

I am worried about few of you (whom I know better) that’s why expressing concern because it will hurt you people and I don’t want to see you in that situation…

Here I would like to clear one thing to some of you…because now I am also following “ME” mentality with not much of comfort… (I still believe in HUM) If I am not behaving in same manner with anyone of you as I used to do earlier then something has gone wrong and that’s for sure…if you have slightest of doubt that I am changed then believe me I am changed and reason can be some bad thing . I am not blaming anyone…it can be my fault somewhere as well as I am extremely unpredictable. I am not what I look like, and don't look like what I am...

But that’s life you have to move on even if u don’t want…people will kick you ahead if you are not willing to do that 

Problems never cease. But they are never bigger than a person. Remember this & take proper decisions at proper time…If you speak truth when time has gone then it’s the biggest lie u have ever spoken and u r responsible for the state of that relation…I am not blaming anyone…I just want to aware myself as well as you- the reader.

I don’t know about others but I want to have that HUM mindset even if I will suffer again and I will insist…it’s too easy to be worst and think about only “Me” but “HUM” helps in relations. It’s my point of view

Be true, real, and transparent & u will win the half battle…The only thing that matters in the end is not u or me...but simply HUM.

1 comment:

Chitra said...

mujhe bahut mixed up laga sab! I could not derive anything from it.